Self-compassion is the key to resilience because it prioritises your relationship with yourself. A vital part of self-compassion is recognising critical self-talk.
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. Loving yourself isn’t selfish. By truly giving yourself the care and attention that you need, you’ll nurture all forms of growth.
Give yourself permission to be kind to yourself.
Do these activities to practice self-compassion:
1. Write yourself a nice note. The note doesn’t have to be long but it can be if you want. Start with just two or three sentences.
Write something encouraging like, “I am glad you exist, and I am proud of the work you do.” You can give yourself the words that will help you heal.
2. Spend an hour outside. Get some fresh air and mindfulness while you spend time at a local park, in the forest, at the beach, or anywhere else outside.
Nature is a natural healer, so being in the open air can offer a new calmness to your brain.
3. Turn off your phone and pay attention to you. Take a break from social media, emails, and other notifications that take you out of the present moment. By truly immersing yourself in your own time, you’ll build a stronger connection to yourself. If this time feels uncomfortable, use it to say positive things to yourself.
4. Write it out. Keep a journal or notebook for positive, encouraging thoughts about yourself. Write out some critical self-talk phrases and then come up with balancing thoughts that work for you.
5. Take yourself out to dinner. It may feel uncomfortable to go to a restaurant by yourself, but it’s a great practice for enjoying the time you spend with yourself. Sometimes spending time alone can feel like loneliness. Go out to eat your favourite meal in order to intentionally do something kind for yourself.
Take the time to take care of you!
By strengthening the relationship you have with yourself, you’ll see other parts of your life improving too. Your relationships will be more authentic, you’ll feel more motivated, and mistakes will not feel like total failures.
These habits will improve resilience by helping you self-motivate when things are difficult.
By practicing self-compassion, you’re strengthening yourself to handle everything life throws your way. If you can face difficulties without berating yourself, you’ll stand tall and remain hopeful.
We covered this as part of our online training on resilience this week in our Master Your Mind Membership Group. So, if you’d like to watch this as well as our other weekly trainings, it is only £20 per month and you can join by clicking here.